june 17, 2016
Having my daughter a little over a year ago radically changed my life. Obviously it changed in all of the normal "new baby" ways but it also changed in other ways that genuinely surprised me. The moment I held my little girl for the first time I was overwhelmed with the feeling that I was responsible for raising this precious child of god into a woman. How could I do this, when I sometimes felt unsure of who I was myself?
An important part of this to me is the idea of self love. I remember being as young as first or second grade and comparing myself to other girls, wishing I was prettier, thinner, you name it. The thought of this absolutely horrifies me as an adult, and especially as a mother to a beautiful little girl. I have spent many moments throughout the past year thinking about ways in which I can help my daughter realize how beautiful and special she is. I have realized that the most important way I can teach my daughter to love herself, is to in fact, love MYSELF.
I, like most women, am my own worst critic. When I see myself in the mirror, I stop to pick out my flaws. When a photo is taken of me I go over it with a fine tooth comb picking out every detail I wish was different. The simple truth is we are a reflection of the one who created us. He loves us and cherishes every single detail about us, whether we see them as flaws or not.
I have vowed to look at myself with a less critical eye. Not just for the sake of myself, but for the sake of my daughter, who is watching me and learning. Who will notice every time I change my outfit because I feel too fat, who will hear every criticism I point out when I look in the mirror, who will watch me watch myself and will learn how she is to view herself.
One of my greatest hopes is that my daughter looks in the mirror and sees herself for who she truly is, a beautiful and amazing girl, created for a purpose, by a god who loves every single tiny little detail about her.
I have hung this quote on my bathroom mirror to remind myself every day where my purpose lies, I invite you to do the same.
I challenge you to stop finding your value in what the world deems beautiful and remember that beauty was placed inside of you by a god who loved you before the world even knew your name.
Together let's create a generation of girls who see the value in themselves beyond their physical appearance.
Happy Friday :)